The Tragedy of Imposter Syndrome (And How to Kick It In the Shins)

Imposter Syndrome is the ultimate frenemy. It shows up uninvited at the most inopportune times, eats all the snacks, and whispers in your ear, “You don’t belong here, you fraud.” Whether it’s at work, parenting, or the audacity of starting a podcast (ahem), it thrives on the gap between what you think you should be and what you feel you are. Spoiler alert: It’s lying to you.

And the tragedy of it? Imposter Syndrome doesn’t just rain on your parade—it cancels the parade entirely. You end up sitting at home, wearing pajamas of self-doubt, while everyone else marches down Main Street throwing confetti.

But here’s the thing: Imposter Syndrome isn’t a reflection of your abilities. It’s more like an annoying car alarm going off at 2 a.m.—loud, persistent, but totally meaningless. Or at the most, it’s a sign that you’re onto something worth doing. But how do we turn it off if it’s holding us back?

1. Call It Out by Name

The first step to dealing with this joy-thief is to recognize it. Next time that voice pipes up—“You’re not qualified,” “They’re going to find you out,” or “Everyone’s just being polite”—pause. Name it: Oh, hey, Imposter Syndrome. I see you.

Calling it out breaks the spell. It turns that all-consuming feeling into a pest you can swat away.

2. Gather Receipts

Imposter Syndrome feeds off of ambiguity, so get specific. Make a “Brag List.” Write down every success, big or small:

• Nailed that presentation?

• Navigated a parenting moment without losing your shit?

• Launched a podcast even though you were terrified?

Facts don’t lie. Seeing your wins in black and white is a great way to tell Imposter Syndrome to shove it.

3. Stop Comparing Your Blooper Reel to Someone Else’s Highlight Reel

Social media is a petri dish for imposter feelings. Everyone’s curating their best moments while you’re stuck replaying your behind-the-scenes chaos. Newsflash: Their chaos exists—you’re just not seeing it.

Unfollow accounts that make you feel less-than. Follow people who share the messy, real stuff. (Hint: These are your people.) Even better? Spend more time IN PERSON with your people, and less time on social altogether.

4. Reframe the Fear

That gnawing fear of being “found out”? It’s actually a good sign. It means you’re stretching, growing, doing the hard stuff. If you feel a little wobbly, congratulations—you’re in the arena. The alternative is standing on the sidelines, and where does that get you?

5. Phone a Friend

Imposter Syndrome loves isolation. It wants you to believe you’re the only one flailing. Spoiler: You’re not. Call someone you trust and spill the beans. Nine times out of ten, they’ll say, “Oh my God, me too!” Connection is kryptonite to Imposter Syndrome.

6. Celebrate Progress Over Perfection

Perfection is a scam. Progress, on the other hand, is the real MVP. Look back at where you started and how far you’ve come. Maybe you’re not at the finish line yet, but you’re moving. That’s what matters.

The Bottom Line

Imposter Syndrome will likely never go away entirely—it’s part of being human. I myself need this message as much as anybody else does. But the next time it knocks on your door, you don’t have to invite it in for tea. Acknowledge it, challenge it, and keep going.

And if all else fails, remember this: The people who don’t doubt themselves? They’re usually the real imposters.

So get out there, do your thing, and keep marching. Your parade isn’t canceled—it’s just getting started.